MPC-Summer Mission Trip (2022)

This is a personal reflection from the team members.

FROM JANELL:

I had the amazing opportunity to go to Rwanda for 2 weeks this summer to visit the Umuryango Children’s Network and Bright Future Academy. I cannot stop thinking about all of the children we met – especially the Umuryango children. I think about and pray for them daily. These vulnerable children were initially so shy & reserved. Getting to know them, learning to communicate, doing activities & playing together, sharing smiles & laughs – just spending time together and caring about each other – were all such life-changing blessings for me. They were kind and caring and helpful and trusting – even when life has not always been those things to them.

It is amazing what God is doing through Yohani & Jean Paul with this charity and school. The impact on the children’s lives is so evident. They are meeting their physical and educational needs – which are both a huge deal and an undertaking. But they are doing so much more by providing a safe, loving, caring environment. They are meeting their emotional needs and teaching them about family and our amazing God who loves every one of them.

I almost didn’t go on this trip due to work commitments. And I cannot believe how much I and my heart would have missed out on had I not gone. Those children and this mission will forever be in my heart.

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FROM MARIAN:

Our trip in July was my first trip to Rwanda.  Our group spent the first 8 days with the children of Bright Future Academy and other times specifically with the students of Umuryango who attend Bright Future.  Our team of 8 played with them on the field, basketball court, and playground during free time.  We also brought organized activities such as science experiments, coloring, hand painting to share the gospel and ballet lessons.  We truly enjoyed working with these kids, whether they were school students, village kids or Umuryango kids.  Yohani organized a very beautiful, but very challenging hike for the teachers, Umuryango kids and our team.  What struck me about the boys on the hike was how kind and helpful they were to us; they held our hands to help us through the difficult parts and one boy patiently led me up the mountain as I huffed and puffed and had to rest every now and again.  When the team initially learned that we were going to work with children who had been living on the street, I imagined tough, streetwise kids, but they were all very respectful and a pleasure to be with.  We had so many cultural experiences during our two weeks: attending a Pentecostal Church with the Umuryango students, going to the market while they bought shoes, going on a safari with our team, visiting the Kigali Genocide Memorial, visiting Lake Kivu, and others.  I would love to go back next year to see those kids again!

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FROM JACK

Our trip to Rwanda in July 2022 introduced us to a beautiful country which we had not experienced previously.  Striking were the beauty of the lush mountains and terraced hillsides of western Rwanda, the grassy plains and majestic animals of Akagera National Park in eastern Rwanda and the bustle of Kigali, a modern capital city in the center of the country.  But the most memorable aspect of our visit were the smiles of the children we met at Bright Future Academy in Byimana.  The children of Bright Future Academy showed us a joy of living, learning and playing in circumstances where they are not possessed of the material trappings of our society but are imbued with the hope and excitement that comes with making a future for themselves based on the education they are able to receive at their school.  Their school provides them a loving environment, the spiritual training and the physical support they need to advance themselves to live productive, Christian lives.  We came away from our 15-day Rwanda travel experience feeling blessed that we are able to help make their futures possible.

 

Love them but do not emotionally and/or materially corrupt them.

I am sure you have heard that too much of anything is bad. It’s true. Too much of good things that you are not used to can be very bad. Let me use an illustration to make my point. Suppose that you are not wealthy but you can provide a modest living for your child.  Though you would like your child to have the best, he or she has learned to be comfortable with your simple lifestyle.  For few days, your neighbor gets a visitor who happens to be a very wealthy person. Feeling sorry for child, the wealthy guy in town starts showering your child with expensive gifts and love (which he needs) that makes him/her feel like he/she is living in a dream. To this child, having the rich guy around is like you having your favorite Hollywood celebrity in town with all of his attention focussed on you.

Because kids adapt very fast, he/she start asking you (the parent) the same things he/she gets from the new wealthy friend. Unfortunately, you have to say no and maybe give him/her a tough lecture on why he/she should not be asking such things that you cannot afford. Every time you say no, he/she runs to the new wealthy friend and he/she gets exactly what he/she wants. While he/she is with the new friend, he/she is given an overwhelming affection and love and every thing his heart longs for. Unfortunately not from you as the parent and you know it will soon be gone. How do you think the actions of this good Samaritan will affect the relationship with your child?  How will it affect the child and how will it make him feel when the Good Samaritan eventually has to leave? Imagine if your own child start wishing he/she was born in a different family that can provide what she just tasted!

You are probably thinking: What are we supposed to do? Leave a child hungry if we can easily feed him? I am not suggesting that. What I am suggesting, though is that handing money and things simply because people need them and we can easily afford it may not always be a wise decision. At the same time, giving  or showing a child more love and affection than he/she has ever gotten from his/her own parents may not be a good thing. I have realized that different cultures have different ways to express love and emotions. It is important that we learn and try to stay within local cultural boundaries.

I think that we, short-term missionaries do a great job in learning about what is accepted and what is expected in order to be respectful and mindful of other cultures.  However, many of us have a hard time controlling our “well-intentioned” emotions.  All short-term missionaries that I have met have something in common. They are equipped with so much love and passion for the people they serve yet they only have two weeks or less to pour it out on the people. So, if they simply let it out, it can be a little too much. In this situation, corporate love (I don’t even know if this exist but I mean loving a big group as a whole) works much better than focusing all of the attention and affection on one person/child

Let me reiterate that I believe God wants us to love and bless them but we have to do it in moderation so to not overstep on their cultural values. As I mentioned in my previous post, we must first meet the person before meeting his/her needs. Thus, with the help of the Holy Spirit, we will discern how to best love and serve them in ways that do not conflict or compromise their cultural values and belief. If not controlled, our passionate expression of love and affection can lead to an emotional corruption that will do more harm than good.  It can unintentionally turn a much-needed cultural exchange into a cultural change.

With everything that can go wrong, how do you even prepare for a mission trip? Well, there are things that you simply cannot plan or prepare for. The best you can do is to continuously seek God’s help and wisdom while you are serving. At the same time, you will need to work closely with a local mission partner. This local partner cannot be someone you just hire. He or she must be someone you have gotten to know and trust; someone who knows and trusts your ministry. Through a stronger relationship, your partner will be empowered to guide you and to tell you everything even when it is not what you want to hear (as long as it glorifies God). Just as much as missions can be challenging and complex for the mission-goers, the same is true for the local partner hosting us. Next time, I will share something I have learned as a host.

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The first thing that often comes into our minds when invited on a mission trip is: What will we be doing there? Oh no! I am the wrong person to ask. I have never done this before and I don’t think I know how to do anything that can be useful. We quickly associate our usefulness and qualification with what we know how to do. This is partly due to the fact that, the companies we work for value us based on what we do; not who we are. Understandably, how we feel about ourselves or how valuable we feel is based on what we can or cannot do. Living in the world of “doers” can quickly make us forget that God is more interested in “who we are” (our being) than in what we can do (our doing).  Call me lazy but I kinda love going on a mission trip and do nothing. It gives me a warm feeling to finally realize that there is a place where I can focus on “being”; not on “doing” and still accepted?

Think about it. If it were about what we can do for our mission partners, going on a mission trip could hardly be financially and logistically justifiable. First of all, the monetary value of what we can accomplish in two weeks is far less than how much we can earn from our highly paying jobs. Secondary, there is not much you can do that will outweigh the time away from your friends and family. Thirdly, it can be more helpful to pay the local people who often need to job and can do it more effectively. Besides, they can do a follow up if anything goes wrong later.

I am not against doing things and building houses for the homeless but I am against making it a central focus of the mission. Doing things should only be a part of the fellowship with our local mission partners. I think it is totally OK to come back home from a mission trip without having built a house for a poor orphan or a widow. However, I think it defeats the purpose to come back without realizing that the poor woman or child who used to come by to say hi is a widow or an orphan. I think the mission trip should be an opportunity to grow our horizontal (interpersonal) relationships while deepening our vertical (with God) relationship.

Imagine that you have a son who has gone to college and achieved great things for himself. Due to his busy school schedule, unfortunately, he never got a chance to be close to your parents (his grandparents). In fact, they barely know him. Knowing about how much he can learn about you and life from them, you suggest that you and him go to spend few days with your parents. Will you be happy if your parents mailed you a to-do-list that you have to complete before you return home? Do you think that his grandparents will want him to spend all of the time working on every thing that they haven’t been able to get done around the house or will they want to spend time doing spontaneous things that help both of them to get to know each other better? Imagine how memorable and beautiful it would be if everything they did was a spontaneous result of their fellowship instead of a planed list of activities and duties.

God’s family is much bigger than our biological families, our churches and our countries. I believe that he introduces us to each other one at a time.  He is not sending you on the mission trip so you meet all of their needs. He is sending you so you can meet “THEM”. So, do not allow “doing” things get in your way for “being” who he wants you to be with them. By getting to know your hosts and letting them get to know you, you will both learn something about God that none of you could have learned otherwise.

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Your only qualification for God’s mission is your obedience and trust

God’s mission is a two way street and it’s not just about them; It’s also about you. 

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A Mission Trip is a two way street. It’s about them as much as it’s about you.

When we finally decide to go on a mission trip, we start thinking about how we can bless them (them meaning whoever we are serving). The first thing we learn about is the needs as we figure out how we can help out. That can be overwhelming at times. It’s true that we may have much more money and material stuff than they do but they actually need much more than we can give. Even if we gave everything we owned, it would only be a drop in the ocean. We have to accept and make peace with this difficult reality. So, let’s forget about being burdened by the needs for a moment.

Don’t get me wrong: It’s good and we should bless those who are less fortunate than we are. However, it would be a mistake to focus our efforts on what we can give rather than who we can be together in the eyes of our creator.  Imagine yourself in a remote region that only less than half of your friends and family have even heard of. Yet, you feel loved and cared for.  Maybe you cannot even communicate verbally but you still feel safe. I don’t know about you, but I see God in that picture.  If not God, what or who else can bring two total strangers, having practically nothing in common to make them feel like brothers and sisters?

I think we risk to get it wrong when we attempt to place ourselves on the donor’s end while placing them on the recipient’s end. After a while, the connection between two ends is only sustained by a one-way flow of materials and money from the donor to the recipient. Soon or later, we finally realize that the issue of poverty on which we focus our efforts is much bigger than we can solve (at least in the time frame we allow ourselves). Consequently, many of us eventually give up in disappointments and discouragement, feeling ineffectively burned out.

As donors, packing our suitcases is even more stressful because we do not know what to leave behind. We want to pack everything we possibly can because we do not want to burden or inconvenience anyone (when we get there).  What we are afraid of (being a burden for our mission partners) is even more reinforced by some long-term western missionaries serving abroad.  They will give you an itemized list of things and tell you exactly how much money you need to bring in order to provide yourself everything without anyone having to sacrifice for you. I am not really suggesting that it’s wrong to be prepared. I am only suggesting that we should allow ourselves some room to be blessed by God and our mission partners.

I think we would have a much more fulfilling experience if we simply allowed ourselves to be blessed as much as we wanted to bless them. Being dependent is certainly not easy especially for many of us who live in the world where we can provide pretty much anything for ourselves. We have learned to be independent and self-reliant in every aspect of life.  In fact, God must sometimes take us to places where we have no access to everything in order to make us feel dependent on him once again. For some of us, that place can be a mission field, where our comfort and security is only God. Who do you depend on when you are outside of your medical insurance and 911’s coverage?

Before I get to my next point, I want to propose a scenario to think about. Suppose you have a wealthy friend. Your friend offers to visit  (or you ask him to) and you both agree on a date. How would you feel if your friend brought his own food and drinks, his own bed and everything else he needed so he doesn’t have to ask anything from you? You know very well that he only did this because he did not want to be a burden.  Would you feel burdened if you had to sacrificially provide whatever you can afford for your friend or would you feel more accepted, dignified and joyful for being given the opportunity to share with a friend?

I guess what I am getting at is that our mission partners would enjoy blessing us as much as we would like to bless them. God has created us to feel joyful when we bless others. I think we should give them the opportunity even when we know that they cannot afford everything we are used to. If you haven’t yet, you will probably hear missionaries say: “they are so poor yet so thankful…” I believe those who apparently don’t have much (by the world standards) can still be thankful and honor God through their offering and generosity. I think that it is absolutely humbling to realize that the God we serve where we live in abundance of stuff is the same God we (or they) serve in places where there is a lack of stuff.

If you feel called, God is not sending you on a mission trip because you are best suited to bless “THEM”. He is sending you because “YOU” are uniquely suited to be blessed by him (sometimes through them). Until you accept his blessings for you sometimes from unlikely places and people, you will not fully experience his awesomeness!

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Your only qualification for God’s mission is your obedience and trust

Do not JUST focus on building houses and doing things; focus on building relationships

Love them but do not emotionally and/or materially corrupt them. 

Your only qualification for a mission Trip is your obedience and trust

When we finally decide to go on a mission trip, we start thinking about how we can bless them (them meaning whoever we are serving). The first thing we learn about is the needs as we figure out how we can help out. That can be overwhelming at times. It’s true that we may have much more money and material stuff than they do but they actually need much more than we can give. Even if we gave everything we owned, it would only be a drop in the ocean. We have to accept and make peace with this difficult reality. So, let’s forget about being burdened by the needs for a moment.

Don’t get me wrong: It’s good and we should bless those who are less fortunate than we are. However, it would be a mistake to focus our efforts on what we can give rather than who we can be together in the eyes of our creator.  Imagine yourself in a remote region that only less than half of your friends and family have even heard of. Yet, you feel loved and cared for.  Maybe you cannot even communicate verbally but you still feel safe. I don’t know about you, but I see God in that picture.  If not God, what or who else can bring two total strangers, having practically nothing in common to make them feel like brothers and sisters?

I think we risk to get get it wrong when we attempt to place ourselves on the donor’s end while placing them on the recipient’s end. After a while, the connection between two ends is only sustained by a one-way flow of materials and money from the donor to the recipient. Soon or later, we finally realize that the issue of poverty on which we focus our efforts is much bigger than we can solve (at least in the time frame we allow ourselves). Consequently, many of us eventually give up in disappointments and discouragement, feeling ineffectively burned out.

As donors, packing our suitcases is even more stressful because we do not know what to leave behind. We want to pack everything we possibly can because we do not want to burden or inconvenience anyone (when we get there).  What we are afraid of (being a burden for our mission partners) is even more reinforced by some long-term western missionaries serving abroad.  They will give you an itemized list of things and tell you exactly how much money you need to bring in order to provide yourself everything without anyone having to sacrifice for you. I am not really suggesting that it’s wrong to be prepared. I am only suggesting that we should allow ourselves some room to be blessed by God and our mission partners.

I think we would have a much more fulfilling experience if we simply allowed ourselves to be blessed as much as we wanted to bless them. Being dependent is certainly not easy especially for many of us who live in the world where we can provide pretty much anything for ourselves. We have learned to be independent and self-reliant in every aspect of life.  In fact, God must sometimes take us to places where we have no access to everything in order to make us feel dependent on him once again. For some of us, that place can be a mission field, where our comfort and security is only God. Who do you depend on when you are outside of your medical insurance and 911’s coverage?

Before I get to my next point, I want to propose a scenario to think about. Suppose you have a wealthy friend. Your friend offers to visit  (or you ask him to) and you both agree on a date. How would you feel if your friend brought his own food and drinks, his own bed and everything else he needed so he doesn’t have to ask anything from you? You know very well that he only did this because he did not want to be a burden.  Would you feel burdened if you had to sacrificially provide whatever you can afford for your friend or would you feel more accepted, dignified and joyful for being given the opportunity to share with a friend?

I guess what I am getting at is that our mission partners would enjoy blessing us as much as we would like to bless them. God has created us to feel joyful when we bless others. I think we should give them the opportunity even when we know that they cannot afford everything we are used to. If you haven’t yet, you will probably hear missionaries say: “they are so poor yet so thankful…” I believe those who apparently don’t have much (by the world standards) can still be thankful and honor God through their offering and generosity. I think that it is absolutely humbling to realize that the God we serve where we live in abundance of stuff is the same God we (or they) serve in places where there is a lack of stuff.

If you feel called, God is not sending you on a mission trip because you are best suited to bless “THEM”. He is sending you because “YOU” are uniquely suited to be blessed by him (sometimes through them). Until you accept his blessings for you sometimes from unlikely places and people, you will not fully experience his awesomeness!

Related Posts

A Mission Trip is a two way street. It’s about them as much as it’s about you

Do not JUST focus on building houses and doing things; focus on building relationships

Love them but do not emotionally and/or materially corrupt them.